Her frame of mind

Jui Purohit posted under QuinTale-73 on 2025-04-22



Who doesn't love the beautiful part of being a mom? She must've adored the thought too. 

Woman is a quintessence of motherhood, rightly said. And she knew all that and felt the same. 

She wasn't petrified of the messy part, she collocated with systematic behaviour.

She wasn't nervous about the challenging part too, she had been a joust always. She had never given up on anything before moving heaven and earth. She had toiled her way up, to succeed. 

The crazy part of being a mother wasn't alien to her, either. She, although, balanced in nature, wouldn't mind, to have handled, being crazy, once in a while. 

Sleepless nights weren't novel to her. She had studied through wakeful nights, numerous times. Her sincerity never allowed her to sleep soundly, unless her work for the day was completed and that too in her sight.

Willingness to give was her attribute prima facie. Sharing, caring and giving, her time or any valuable thing for that matter, was her mandate. 

And if it was for her baby, why would she step back?

She wasn't apprehensive about any of the above mentioned obstacles. She had been strong headed and resilient enough to worry about inconsequential hurdles. 

But then one fine day, she took a tough decision..... to give up motherhood! 

She had a career, which she had built, sacrificing countless things. She couldn't compromise on that. She was clear that if she sought to be a mom, she had to be there for the baby, no matter what. So, was she in a place at her job, to ask for leaves for every other reason? The maternity leave first and then, when her baby falls sick, or her baby wasn't eating, or her baby cried for her, so on and so forth, I guess No!

She wasn't keen on just giving birth and letting the baby grow in a crèche. Someone else feeding her baby, someone else singing a lullaby, someone else witnessing the milestones. While she was away, busy, with her deadlines, seminars, conferences, having not much contribution to baby's progress.

Neither was she fervent on handing over the baby to her in-laws, who would get caught up forever in the routine. In-laws would've to forfeit their independence, of going out, enjoying their retired life. Not that the grandparents would've refused to take care of the baby, but why burden them with something just because you want a kid? Was her idea!

The ever increasing expenses, the EMI's, the school fees, all that added to the cons, making the pros weigh lesser.

Is being a mother that essential for a woman? Can't she have the maternal instincts and yet, abstain from motherhood? This was her frame of mind, is she wrong?